tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2425548329499971328.post3797494979298881373..comments2023-10-10T07:35:22.206-07:00Comments on Garnetsgarden: When a friendship diesGarnetrosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09911448607956799034noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2425548329499971328.post-27501372355351755032010-08-31T01:55:15.955-07:002010-08-31T01:55:15.955-07:00I agree with this article! I had a good GF and not...I agree with this article! I had a good GF and not with her now..but she always meets me at many place where we were before! The feeling is different! anyways thanks for sharing!!Friendship Lettershttp://www.sampleletters.org/category/friendship-lettersnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2425548329499971328.post-80387740528097300102010-08-27T05:59:00.670-07:002010-08-27T05:59:00.670-07:00I'm with Jinksy. If you haven't already, s...I'm with Jinksy. If you haven't already, send her an honest note including some of the stuff you mentioned here. And then be prepared to let it go. I have come to realize the truth in the saying that some friends come for a reason, others for a season, and some for a lifetime. <a href="http://sweetnostalgia.wordpress.com/2007/03/27/reason-season-lifetime/" rel="nofollow">Here is a blog I just found about friendship.</a> Perhaps it will help.Anvilcloudhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07974744042579564912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2425548329499971328.post-42332317638291107932010-08-26T02:34:58.746-07:002010-08-26T02:34:58.746-07:00Maybe a letter to her explaining how you feel, and...Maybe a letter to her explaining how you feel, and making clear your friendship is still on offer, might do the trick? Then at least you will know you have done your best. Good luck! :)Jinksyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01686101468214361004noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2425548329499971328.post-76147079398784402412010-08-25T19:18:47.324-07:002010-08-25T19:18:47.324-07:00I would like to thank you both for your comments. ...I would like to thank you both for your comments. I still do not know what I am going to do on this issue. I am going to think on it a bit longer before deciding what I will do.<br /><br />Jeannie...thanks for the reminder that there is a season for everything. *s*Garnetrosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09911448607956799034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2425548329499971328.post-29444159381106721052010-08-25T13:56:18.987-07:002010-08-25T13:56:18.987-07:00I bet you will get quite a few comments regarding ...I bet you will get quite a few comments regarding this. We've all probably felt like this. I know I have. Two thoughts come to mind. 1) who knows what her husband told her. she may have even thought you were involved with him. stupid yes but a possibility nevertheless. 2) she's so hurt and embarrassed and everytime she thinks of you it just brings up all the pain. Perhaps you should just write her a card and say "I honestly don't know why you are avoiding me and I miss our friendship. Maybe you will contact me down the road but till that time I wish you nothing but love and happiness." What more can you do?BBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09432729957196570774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2425548329499971328.post-2505109517003542962010-08-25T12:59:35.036-07:002010-08-25T12:59:35.036-07:00I had a lifelong friendship with someone. Looking ...I had a lifelong friendship with someone. Looking back, I realize that while I was always there for her, she was unable to return any kind of compassion and was more inclined to kick me when I was down. When my husband required a quadruple bypass, she was silent (she never liked my husband). And when I opened my tanning salon, she sniped at me. And when I was overwhelmed with work and suffering from severe chronic pain, she sniped at me more. The last time was the last time. I did not respond to her email. And haven't made any effort to contact her since. I realized that she did not place the same value on me as I had on her. She has made no effort to reach me and it's been a couple of years now. I have no idea if I'll ever see her again and really don't care to if the friendship was only ever one sided. Perhaps it wasn't - maybe she had other issues but I felt quite betrayed. <br />It sounds as though your friend felt that you were a part of her betrayal - that everyone was making a fool of her and she just couldn't bear it. The fact that you did not keep secrets from her doesn't matter. She suspects you and simply can't trust you any longer. Unjustified but it would be very difficult for her to overcome that pain. If you want to keep trying, include a note with the next birthday or Christmas card explaining that you didn't know about her husband but you are very sorry that you never told her your suspicions either - it would have been very awkward if you were wrong about it. Ask her forgiveness and leave the ball in her court. Be prepared to accept that the friendship is over. <br />To everything there is a season.Jeanniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15320507412459242451noreply@blogger.com