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Thursday, January 20, 2011

My mother in law fell today. It was so sad to see her like she was today and think of what she was  like a few years ago.  It was not so long ago that she was laughing and dancing around with all her grand kids. Playing with them and riding her bike down the hill. We would have to scold her and remind her that she was too old to ride with her feet on the handle bars and no hands.  Like a kid.  Now, she is like a baby in some ways.  She fell and must have laid on the floor for several hours. My husband was up earlier and she was up and about.  He called to tell her he was bringing supper up and she did not answer.  He found her on the floor, covered with bruises.  He, and my brother in law managed to get her in bed for the night. 

I know we are going to have to make some plans to put her in a home where she can live with assisted living some time.  I think she can still live in her own place but she needs someone who can check on her hourly and make sure she is okay.  Tough decision to make but I think the time is coming for us to do that.

7 comments:

  1. That is a tough point to be at Garnet. I don't envy you. We had to put my Dad into a nursing home and it was so damn hard. She sounds like a wonderful woman who was a lot of fun. Getting old really stinks.

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  2. Such a hard decision. But you know, my mother-in-law fought tooth and nail against assisted living but when she no longer had a choice and made to do it, she found it was much nicer than she'd ever imagined. She made many friends amongst the others in the same boat and had some excellent years.

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  3. I am so sorry to read this. I know it's very hard to thinking of having to move out of her home and into assisted living...but I know where I live here in rural Minnesota there are some wonderful places...in fact I just got done helping move my friends mom to this assisted living place and it is unbelievable...it looks like a big beautiful home and then inside it is so warm and cozy...decorated just like a persons home...they have a huge living room and a big beautiful kitchen and dining room where they all eat together and then each of them have their own little apartment..and they are so cute...you can decorate your own place like you want it...plus they have a big communtiy room with a kitchen that they can each reserve to use for parties or what not...they have all kinds of neat activities for them to do...plus the food is all homemade...even homemade bread at each meal...my friends mom loves it there. I am going to pray that you and your husband could find something like this for his mom. You would think that this would be more expensive then a nursing home..it's not, it's cheaper! And she's getting better care!

    I am sending you much love and hugs and positive thoughts...you have your plate over flowing right now. Prayers going up on your behalf!

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  4. My mom fought living in assisted living but she finally agreed and said it was the wisest thing she could hav done and wished she had done it sooner. I think she would do well there but she has to be convinced tht is is what is best for her.

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  5. Fortunately my sisters and I was able to look after my mom until she finally died but now my MIL keeps falling and don't know how much longer she can stay by herself and my Aunt Katie who is 102 is having more difficulty getting up and down and requiring more in home help. Getting old sucks but we have to take one day at a time and do the best we can with what we have. Good luck handling your situation.
    Odie

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  6. It is a tough decision, We had to do the same with my MIL years ago. She lived with us and was bed ridden. It came to a point where I just couldn't take care of her myself anymore. My husbands always gone. But since your MIL is still getting around, there are many nice assisted living places. I will pray for you and your future decisions and for your MIL who must be very sore right now. Love Di ♥

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  7. So sorry to learn of her fall, I hope she heals quickly. The decision for her to move into an assisted living place will not be an easy one. Will say a prayer for all of you.....:-)Hugs

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